Need a confidence boost? Struggling with feelings of low self-esteem and negative self-talk? The article below includes a long list of affirmations for confidence, self-esteem, and well-being.
The affirmations below are only suggestions. Use as many of them as you like or feel that you need, but feel free to write your own affirmations based on our examples.
Your experience of confidence and what you need to do or to feel, to achieve confidence is unique to you, so only you know what will work best.
What are confidence affirmations?
Affirmations are short phrases we repeat to ourselves to instill their message. They are positive statements that are uplifting and inspiring and serve to help us replace the negative thoughts that run around our minds and bring us down.
The way we choose to speak to ourselves has a direct effect on how we feel. You may wonder how repeating a simple positive statement such as ‘I am worthy of love’ can help with negative feelings, but understand that we’re talking to ourselves most of the time, be that in a positive or negative light.
Many of us experience negative self-talk, and we can become so used to it that we don’t even notice it anymore. What does your inner voice say when you fail a task or let someone down?
If you’re like most people, it probably offers unconstructive criticism and tarnishes your name.
‘I’m such an idiot, everyone else knows how to do this but I don’t.’
‘Wow, I really am an a**hole.’
Sound familiar? The problem with talking to ourselves with such negativity is that it leads to a negative perception of self. When you have a poor opinion of yourself, you’re more likely to act that way in the future.
You may not take risks because you fear failure or avoid intimate relationships because you predict you’ll ‘probably mess it up anyway.’
Such thoughts often become self-fulfilling prophecies.
So, what can we do instead? With what can we replace those negative, critical thoughts? Positive affirmations.
It’s a simple technique, but the act of silently or speaking aloud positive, uplifting affirmations to and about ourselves shifts our perspective about who we are and our place in the world.
Short positive affirmations for confidence
Affirmations are best kept short and to the point. The following are some short positive affirmations to boost your self-confidence and overcome those negative feelings about yourself:
- I am worthy of love
- I value myself
- I believe in my value
- I belong
- I am willing and able to live my dream life.
- I believe in myself
- I embrace challenges.
- I have the ability to overcome obstacles.
- I have everything I need to feel confident.
- I am bigger than my negative thoughts.
- I offer myself unconditional love and validation.
- I can always be my true self.
- I can feel safe outside my comfort zone.
- I take challenges as opportunities for growth.
- I don’t need to base my mood on that of others.
- I can let go of my insecurities.
- I am blessed every day.
- I am here. I am alive.
- I have the right to choose who I allow into my life.
- Failure is not who I am.
- I learn from all of my experiences.
- Better today, even better tomorrow.
- I don’t need to be perfect to feel happy.
- I accept and embrace my imperfections.
- I deserve love and respect.
- I am responsible for my own healing.
- I embrace the unknown.
- I walk confidently in the direction of my dreams.
- I have the right to create the life I want to live.
- I can relax and enjoy the moment.
- I can cope with stress.
- I trust myself.
- I radiate confidence.
- When I love myself, I exude confidence.
- I don’t need to feel guilty for my emotions.
- Confidence is my birthright.
- My feelings are always valid.
- I love myself.
- My friends and family love me.
- I am a creative force.
Self-esteem and self-worth affirmations
- I offer myself unconditional love.
- My worth is not based on others’ opinions.
- I am beautiful and divine.
- My life is a learning process.
- I let go of harsh self-criticism.
- I am loved.
- I value my own being.
- I don’t need external achievements to feel fulfilled.
- I deserve happiness.
- I am entitled to relax.
- I embrace my positive thoughts and have patience with my negative thoughts.
- I am alive in the present.
- My past shaped me; I shaped my future.
- The future is bright.
- I accept and embrace my imperfections.
- I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone.
Everybody wants to be successful.
One of the most significant factors in achieving real success is your degree of belief in yourself. Talent and hard work are undoubtedly necessary, but without self-belief, the seeds of your talent and hard work don’t have a chance to blossom.
A healthy and loving self-relationship is the soil from which those seeds of success grow. So, when doubt creeps in and you begin to expect failure, give yourself a break and recite some of the following success-based affirmations.
- I can achieve anything I want.
- I see failure as a step on the path to success.
- I am capable of achieving my goals.
- I walk the path of prosperity.
- I boost my chance of success with a positive attitude.
- I release habits and beliefs that hinder my success.
- I am the master of my own destiny.
- I have everything I need. More is the cherry on top.
- I am grateful for the success I have already achieved, and for the success I will achieve.
- I am open to taking risks.
- I am not defined by my failures.
- My life has no limits.
How to use affirmations for confidence and success
There is a right way and a wrong way to use affirmations. The wrong way is to say the phrase once, repeat it only a couple of times, and then forget about it.
Given that we have more than six thousand thoughts in a single day, one or two repetitions won’t be sufficient to shift your perspective and instill absolute confidence.
The right way to practice affirmations is to speak them with intention and patience.
Allow yourself at least three to five minutes to recite or meditate on a given affirmation. Keep the declaration in mind, and when your mind starts to wonder, come back to your breath and focus again on the affirmation.
It takes practice and might feel silly or awkward, but it constantly leads to real results.
1. Set aside time
Consistency is key if you want your affirmation to take effect.
Saying them once and never again won’t do much to boost your self-esteem. Instead, take an active role in your confidence-building and give yourself time daily to practice.
Even a few minutes a day makes all the difference when you practice consistently.
2. Practice in the mirror
Look at yourself in the mirror as you recite your chosen affirmation. Don’t be afraid of yourself. Hold eye contact and speak to your reflection directly.
As you progress through your recitation, check in with your body.
How is your posture? If you’re slouched, correct it. Stand up straight, push out your chest, and relax your eyes.
Over the few minutes you recite, those simple changes in posture will further instill the message.
3. Write your affirmations in a journal
Writing is a great way to make your affirmations stick. The act of writing connects your brain to your emotions in a way that helps you process whatever you’re writing in depth.
It’s too easy to forget about our affirmations when moments of stress arise. All is well when we’re at home on the commute to work reciting a powerful affirmation to ourselves, but when faced with challenges, our reactive stress response kicks right back in and makes us feel less than worthy.
Writing your affirmations in a journal and spending some time after writing to reflect deepens the message so that you’re more likely to remember your affirmation of choice when you need it.
4. Live that life
Don’t rely on positive self-talk alone. Use the perspectives and positive feelings you gain from affirmations to embody confidence and carry that confident self into the world around you.
Witnessing it for yourself is the only way to understand how affirmations work. It may take time to notice significant changes in yourself and your beliefs.
Still, if you’re consistent in your practice and speak and write with intention, you’ll be able to reflect on recent and not-so-recent experiences and see how much your approach to life has changed.
We all experience negative thinking patterns from time to time. The critical thing to remember is that those thoughts are not who you are but mental reactions to beliefs that are not based on reality but fear.
The self-confidence and self-esteem affirmations we’ve included above are not a quick fix for your negative thought patterns. They are tools you must use with patience and consistency to clear out limiting beliefs about yourself and replace them with beliefs that serve your highest well-being.