Are you looking for the perfect guy? Are you trying to navigate the complexities of a modern love life? Are you wondering how to get a boyfriend? If so, this article is for you. Below, you will find some tips and advice on how you can up the ante in your love life and find a relationship in which you can thrive.
It is not always easy to find the right person. Whether you have had a few boyfriends before or are just starting your journey into the dating scene, navigating the world of modern romance can be challenging. Many online dating apps claim to help you find the perfect match, but if they truly worked, we would not need to keep those apps on our phones.
Dating can be challenging, especially when you find yourself on a chain of dates that seem to be going nowhere. You might wish that you could finally see that one person you could call yours. Of course, not all of us are lucky in love, but that does not mean we will be single forever. One of the greatest virtues you can carry on your journey to love is patience. Without it, you will end up with the wrong people and for the wrong reasons. With it, you will gain insights, trust, and respect.
Signs He Wants You to Be His Girlfriend
Sometimes, getting a boyfriend requires recognizing the subtle (and not so subtle) signs that a guy likes you. Many a potential romance has been missed because one person or the other failed to see the signs that the other was interested.
Of course, it would be nice if people could just come right out and say, “Hey, I like you, I think you’re cute/funny/smart/unique, and I think we should date to see where things go.” It would also be nice if the person who said that to you is the person you also like (and not that guy who keeps asking you out and cannot seem to accept that you are not into him).
So, below, we have outlined some potential signs that a guy not only likes you but wants you to be his girlfriend.
Disclaimer: These signs are not foolproof. You will have to use your skills of discernment and intuition to know if the person is into you that way, but if they act in the following ways, you have a good chance.
1. He Asks Deep Questions About You
More often than not, when a guy asks deeply personal questions about you, such as your family history, your hopes for the future, or the weirdest dreams you have had, that is an attempt to get close to you. He does not just want to be friends, and he is not just looking for sex. He is interested in your being and wants to know you more.
If he is asking these personal questions and expressing genuine interest in your answers, it is clear that he is making an effort to be in your life. He will not just hear your answers—he will reflect on them afterward. He might ask follow-up questions or refer to one of your answers in a later conversation.
Of course, just because he is asking questions does not necessarily mean he wants you to be his girlfriend. Maybe he wants to know you a little bit better or genuinely wants to be friends. It may even be that he only pretends to be romantic to get something from you. Still, you can usually tell how genuine he is when you open up emotionally, and he consistently demonstrates care and attention rather than pulling away or ghosting you.
This is one sign of potential romantic interest and will be more obvious if it happens along with the other signs outlined below.
2. He Offers Lots of Compliments
More than just a “you look nice today” or “those clothes suit you“, if a guy wants to be with you romantically, he will tailor his compliments to be more specific. He might tell you that he likes the way your hair falls on your face or how much he appreciates your caring and compassionate nature. Friends may offer you compliments, and guys who want to get into your pants may provide you with the same. However, you can discern between those and the type of guy who is genuinely interested in you by how they say their compliments.
A genuinely interested guy who wants to be with you will compliment you far more than your appearance. He will tell you how much he appreciates you as a person and specifies the times he noticed amazing things about you that you did not even give a second thought to. That is because he is paying close attention to you. Maybe he has known you for a while and has been attracted to you for quite some time. But, the more attention he gives, the greater the possibility that his feelings have shifted towards a deeper romantic interest.
3. He Talks to His Friends About You
If a guy cannot stop talking to his friends about you, you can be sure you captivated his attention, or probably his heart. If you hear from a mutual friend that he is singing your praises and seems always to be thinking of you, that is awesome. Guys are typically reserved when talking about a girl they like until they are sure about how they feel. So, if he is expressing his interests to his friends, he most certainly wants a deeper connection with you.
How to Get a Boyfriend and Attract the Right Guy
1. Ask Yourself If You Are Ready
Your first instinct might be to answer this question with a resounding yes but do not be so quick to respond. When we feel a little lonely, when we have not had some physical intimacy in a while, or when all our friends are getting into relationships, it is easy to think it is the right path to take.
Still, just because everyone else seems to be succeeding in their romantic life, things are not always as they seem. Many people enter relationships not out of love but out of the fear and discomfort of being alone. Eventually, these relationships end poorly because one or both partners realize they were not a perfect match as they initially thought.
Whether it has been agreed to be short-term or something more serious, having a relationship requires both partners to be ready. That means being prepared to share deeper aspects of your life with the person, making an effort to learn their love language, and letting them know about yours. It means being with someone because you have the emotional capacity, patience, and willingness to do so, rather than using somebody to fill a void in your life.
Why Do You Want a Boyfriend
To help you answer the question above, ask yourself why you want a boyfriend. Are you looking for a charming prince who will sweep you off your feet and take away your sorrows? Or are you looking for a genuine partnership? Do you want someone to help you fix your feelings of loneliness, or do you want someone with whom you can work together towards helping you both grow and develop as people? There is no right or wrong answer here, but understanding the deeper reason behind your search for a potential boyfriend will help you better understand how to go about it.
If you can be honest with yourself about whether or not you are ready and why you want a boyfriend in the first place, you are giving yourself power and control. Authenticity, honesty, and self-awareness are the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. If you realize that you are not ready right now, that is okay. There is no pressure to have a boyfriend, and anyone who pressures you that way is a toxic person with whom you should set some healthy boundaries. Moreover, this honesty and self-reflection will help you grow and develop so much as a person that when the right person eventually comes along, you will have the best version of yourself to offer.
2. Figure Out Your Type
Having a type can limit your journey because many wonderful, unique, and interesting people probably do not fit your preferences. Still, defining the type of guy you want to be with can help if you do not know where to begin. You can start with aesthetics, such as hairstyle, build, and fashion sense, but understand that these metrics can be deceiving. It is better to base your type on values.
For example, you might like a guy who is good with money, or you might like the type who prioritizes family over everything. Maybe you want someone good with kids or into adventurous activities. Now, all of these values may even be found in one guy, but just having a sense of what you are looking for will help you narrow down your options.
3. Go Out, Have Fun and Enjoy Life
To quote pop-funk band Kool & The Gang, “how you gonna do it if you really don’t wanna dance?” Sure, there are plenty of dating apps out there to help you meet like-minded people, but there is nothing quite like heading out with some friends and meeting new people face to face. You could enjoy rock climbing, a sporting event or simply go to your favorite coffee shop.
When you share that physical space with someone, it is much easier to get a sense of the chemistry between you without all the texting. Part of the reason you do not have a boyfriend right now maybe because you isolate yourself a lot. There is nothing wrong with that, but understand that by separating yourself from others, you are not giving yourself a fair chance to meet new people. That is not to say you have to go out every weekend, but attending events occasionally and making an effort to speak to people will significantly boost your chances of meeting a nice guy who might spark your romantic interest.
4. Build Your Confidence
Ask any real man, and he will tell you that the most attractive quality of a woman is confidence. Some men prefer a less confident woman, but let it be said here and now that that is not the type of man you want.
When talking to people, including the guy you like (and anyone), make sure to maintain eye contact. That does not mean you have to stare the person down. Just make sure to look at people with intent. Look into their eyes and use your facial expressions and body language to carry the conversation along. Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Do not just save them for special occasions—wear them whenever you feel like it. That is what they are for, after all.
5. Do Not Be Afraid to Make the First Move
Sometimes the only way to know if that cute guy is interested in you is to ask. Most guys appreciate it when a girl makes the first move because it helps them relax. They do not feel like they are overstepping boundaries or bothering you somehow. If they are not romantically interested in you, they will still appreciate your interest.
If you have been seeing someone for a while but still have not taken the next step, you do not have to wait for him to bring it up. As mentioned, a guy loves it when a girl is not afraid to speak her mind. Some guys do not like it, but is that the kind of guy you want to be in partnership with? Well, I guess not.
We are sure you would much rather have a good boyfriend who respects you for who you are and not what they want you to be for selfish reasons. If you want to bring it up, you can begin by sharing how you see him. He already knows you like him and that you are attracted to him, but he may not only know how he looks in your eyes. Tell him about the amazing qualities that make your eyes glow and your heart skip a beat when you see him.
Many of us want to get a boyfriend fast because we feel lonely or crave intimacy. That is perfectly human, but if you want a healthy and lasting relationship, it is best to cultivate some patience. Without patience, you are more likely to say yes to the next guy that comes along.
With patience, you will be more confident about whom you wish to share your precious energy with. Based on personal experience, most girls would agree that it is better to hold out until you are sure about someone rather than jump into something now and regret it later. On your journey to developing a new relationship, understand that there are many great guys out there, and one good man is just waiting to meet someone as unique as you.