It’s normal to want someone to miss you, especially if you miss them too. Missing one another is a sign that the relationship is worth having in the first place, whether casual or more serious.
Missing someone isn’t fun, but it can feel nice, like a light, warm sadness in the heart. When you miss someone, it’s also nice to know that they miss you too.
So, if you want to make a guy miss you, there are some things you should know.
The psychology of missing someone is pretty easy to understand once you know the basics. In this article, we’ll show you how to make someone miss you and want to talk or hang out with you.
How to make someone miss you
Even though below we’ll offer advice on how to make a man miss you, understand that you won’t be casting spells.
This is not about using manipulative psychological tricks to make someone fall in love with you.
The advice below works because the main focus is on you being yourself and playing it cool, two key elements in achieving success in love and maintaining your physical and mental health.
Obsessing over someone and missing them like crazy may feel romantic at first, but it soon becomes destructive.
Before we get started, use this advice responsibly. You may become much more attractive to others once you start understanding the psychology of human behavior and what makes people miss others.
So, how do you make someone start missing you? Below we’ve included eight practical tips to make him miss you and want to see you.
1. Don’t be constantly available
Get some physical distance from him. If there’s one thing that makes a guy run for the hills, it’s a clingy woman.
It’s all fun and games at first because he loves the attention, but if you’re always around him and looking at him with starry eyes, he’ll likely soon grow tired of that constant attention.
If you constantly give him your time and energy, that shows him that you value him more than other areas of your life. A good man wants a woman who values her own time.
Show that you value your time
Valued time is attractive because it feels special when the person wants to hang out with you. If you’re a busy person with a bustling social life or many projects and still carve out time to be with someone, that’s a huge compliment.
So, limit your availability. Focus on other aspects of your life and give them their due time and energy.
Don’t cut him out completely, but let him see that you’re not around 24/7. Men tend to lose interest in women who are constantly available and accessible. So make him exert more effort to spend time with you.
2. Limit texting
It’s normal to feel excited when you like and miss someone. All those butterflies in your stomach that make you feel a little sick are a welcome flurry of love chemicals that brighten your day.
Still, be cool.
You want to talk to him, so when you see that he’s active online, you anticipate a text. Alternatively, you think about texting him.
Either way, the fact that he’s online may take up much of your focus.
Don’t text him all the time. Again, value your time and energy. If you text him all the time, it will be hard for him to miss you.
Don’t text back immediately
Play hard to get. When he texts you, wait a bit longer before replying..
Yes, this is somewhat of a game and it’s not always healthy to play games in love, but it’s normal to play some harmless ones.
Not texting back straight away, even if you have time, is one game that will make him think about you for longer.
If you decide to wait before texting, do the right thing and don’t open the message completely. Doing so will show that you’ve read the message, but not replying looks like you’re actively ignoring him.
3. Create reminders
You need something to remind him of you when you’re not around. That way, he’ll think of you when he sees the reminder.
The more this happens, the more he’ll feel like he misses you and wants to reach out. If he doesn’t reach out, he’ll at least be happier to see you when you two meet.
There are two ways to use this approach.
Smell and memory is supposed to be interconnected. Leave a signature, such as a scent, a favorite type of food or tea, or even a favorite color. If you wear the same perfume around him and it smells like a certain flower, then he’ll think of you every time he smells or sees that flower, or anytime he smells your signature scent on a passer-by.
If you always mentioned that you love Thai food, he’ll think of you next time he’s at a Thai restaurant or when he gets a craving.
You can even mention your favorite color and wear clothes of that color around him often so that when he sees that color, he’ll think of you.
The second way to use the reminder approach is to leave personal items in his possession. Objects hold memories when they’re associated with an experience.
Have you ever rediscovered an old item of clothing and remembered the time you wore it? Or found a train ticket in a coat pocket and remembered the journey, where you were going, and all the fun you had?
You can use the same principle to make him miss you.
For example, if you visited his house and stayed for a night, you can ‘accidentally’ leave your earrings or a bracelet at his place.
If you’re not staying at his place, you can leave something in his car or at a coffee shop table if you have to go first.
4. Do fun things together
Do fun things together if you want him to miss you. Spend time creating fun memories like taking a fun road trip or going to see a scary movie.
Doing fun activities together is an excellent way to bond; he’ll remember your moments fondly when you are apart.
5. Hang out with your other friends
As mentioned earlier, don’t give him all of your time. Some people neglect other areas of their life when they meet someone they like, but you downplay your value when you act as such.
Hang out with your friends, stay busy, and know that you have other priorities. That way, he’ll look forward to the time he gets to spend with you.
6. Let him know you miss him
Instead of playing the game of feigned disinterest, let him know that you miss him.
Be honest about how you feel by letting him know that you’re thinking about him and that you look forward to seeing him again. This is especially important if you two are in a long-distance relationship.
It’s not always easy to be vulnerable, but if you’re brave enough to be the first person to communicate your honest feelings, you’ll create a safe space for him to do the same. Guys are typically less comfortable expressing such emotions, so if you do it first, he’ll feel safe enough to tell you that he misses you too.
7. Be yourself
Remember that you’re a strong and independent woman.
You don’t need him to miss you, but it would feel nice if he did.
Being your authentic self is one of the best ways to make anyone miss you, and look forward to seeing you again. That means not pretending to be someone else to make him like you.
Be fierce in your convictions, honest in your opinions, and accepting of your emotions and feelings. Living in such authenticity makes you glow, and others notice.
8. Leave room for mystery
Be yourself, but don’t give the game away. Remember to leave some mystery by sitting back to listen more than you talk.
When a conversation or a date ends, be the first one to hang up or pack your things and leave. You don’t always have to leave first but don’t always be the second one to go either.
Again, this shows that you have other priorities and that even though you want to spend time with him, you have other things to do.
Further, when you leave to do your own thing, you don’t always need to let him know what you’re up to. An air of mystery is incredibly attractive and seductive.
Missing you like crazy quotes
Here are some quotes you can share with your special someone:
“If I miss you any harder, my heart might come looking for you.” – Gemma Troy
“You’re everywhere except right here and it hurts.” – Rupi Kaur
“Half of me is missing you and the other half is missing you.” – Ranata Suzuki
“Life is so short, so fast the lone hours fly, we ought to be together, you and I.” – Henry Alford
“I don’t know what they are called — the spaces between seconds, but I think of you always in those intervals. – Salvador
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely.” – Charles M. Schulz
“Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.” – Kay Knudsen
“If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk in my garden forever.” – Claudia Adrienne Grandi
“If you think missing me is hard, then you should try missing you.” – Theofilos
“Missing her kept him awake more than the coffee.” – John Green
“The scary thing about distance is you don’t know whether they’ll miss you or forget you.” – Nicolas Sparks
“How you can already miss someone when you are in the same room with them, I have no idea. But I do.”- Karen Harrington
“Plant a good seed in people who have fertile hearts. When you are away, they’ll miss you. When you are coming again, they can’t wait!” – Israelmore Ayivor
With the tips and advice above, he’ll miss you in no time.
However, be ready to accept if he does not reciprocate your feelings.
As mentioned earlier, be responsible for these tips. Matters of the heart should not be taken lightly, so don’t make him miss you just for the ego boost!
Only use these tips if you’re genuinely interested in him, not just because you want to use him to help you feel good about yourself.
The best time to use the above advice is when you genuinely miss him too.