We all know a judgemental person.
It seems that no matter the situation, judgemental people carefully observe people around with eagle eyes and craft some criticisms and negative thoughts that they just have to say out loud.
It’s not always easy to deal with judgemental people, especially when they are adamant about making their opinion heard, but it’s essential to learn how to deal with such people if you want to keep your cool.
It’s easy to get frustrated with them, but that doesn’t bother them much and only makes you more stressed and angry than necessary.
Below we’ve included a long list of judgemental people quotes to help you remember that it’s not healthy to judge people and that those who do it are doing a great disservice to themselves.
Later in the article, we’ll offer some valuable tips and advice for dealing with the judgemental know-it-alls in your life.
Judgemental people quotes
“Even when people are so judgmental about what you wear or your weight you just have to step away and be like, I’m a normal, fine human being.” – Leighton Meester
“Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating. By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled as we are.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer
“People decide what you’re like before they even get to know you. They think they know all about you. Except, you’re never who they think you are.” – Celeste Ng
“The most judgmental people are often those who complain most about being judged. The ones not complaining will look as though they’re the ones doing the judging.” – Criss Jami
“Judgment is often no more than a confession of ignorance.”Bill Clegg
“People who judge others tell more about who they are than who they judge.” – Donald L. Hicks
“How often it is that we set ourselves in the high seat, judging others, not having read their book but merely having glimpsed the cover.” – Richelle E. Goodrich
“When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.” – Earl Nightingale
“A judgmental heart has a lack of introspection.” – Toba Beta
“Sometimes, people can be extraordinarily judgmental and closed-minded to anyone different or special, which is why it’s so hard for young people in this day and age to be comfortable enough in their own skin to not listen to people picking on them.”Ariana Grande
“There’s a difference between being opinionated and judgmental; I’m still trying to figure out what that fine line is – I think we are all.” – India Arie
“We judge ourselves by our intentions. And others by their actions.” – Stephen Covey
“When we practice loving-kindness toward ourselves, a miracle happens. We stop being so judgmental of ourselves, and, in turn, we’re also less judgmental of others.” – Troy L Love
Quotes about withholding judgement
“It would be nice to create something that’s healing rather than slightly creepy and darkly judgmental.” – Jenny Lewis
“Understanding trauma and that we each respond to it differently will help us be supportive and non-judgmental toward each other.” – Stephanie S. Covington
“Even the thinnest anything, has two sides to it. Let’s seek to examine both sides to everything before we judge.” – Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana
“Before you condemn someone else for a wrongful act, check your behavior and see if you too have committed an act similar to or even worse than the act that person has done. Then you won’t be in a position to judge.”Ellen J. Barrie
“I don’t really have that many judgments on things, or crazy statements that I feel like I have to put across.” – Rita Ora
“Be careful not to measure your holiness by other people’s sins. – Martin Luther
“It’s very easy to be judgmental until you know someone’s truth. – Kate Winslet
“When we make judgments we’re inevitably acting on limited knowledge, isn’t it best to ask if we seek to understand, or simply let them be?” – Jay Woodman
“You can never get all the facts from just one newspaper, and unless you have all the facts, you cannot make proper judgments about what is going on.” – Harry S. Truman
“We can never judge the lives of others because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”Paulo Coelho
“It is not for me to judge another man’s life. I must judge, I must choose, I must spurn, purely for myself. For myself, alone.” – Herman Hesse
“The highest freedom of mind comes from becoming non-judgmental.” – Debasish Mridha
“When you feel that others are lacking and failing, first assess the skill, style, quality, results, mindset, support, professionalism, and spirit with which you yourself play the game.” – Rasheed Ogunlaru
“If you are pained by external things it is not they that disturb you but your own judgment of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now.” – Marcus Aurelius
How to deal with a know-it-all
It’s normal to feel frustrated when dealing with a know-it-all. Sometimes it feels like the critical, judgemental person isn’t even there, blissfully, but frustratingly for everyone else, ignorant of their conceited and assumptive nature.
When dealing with a know-it-all, it’s far too easy to get caught up in your frustration and act out in the same way.
However, if you’ve ever reacted to your frustration around know-it-alls, you know it doesn’t go so well.
These people seem to have a knack for turning the tables and making you feel like a bad person when you confront them about their behavior.
So, what’s the best way to deal with know-it-alls?
1. Stay calm
It’s hard to stay calm when the sharply judgmental, know-it-all person goes off, but learning how to stay calm and grounded in these situations is exactly what will help you get through them.
When you feel your frustration start to build, notice your urge to pass judgement, call them out or argue with them, then call your attention back to your breath, back to your center.
It’s not always easy, but cultivate the faith that others see, or will see, through this person just like you do.
2. Practice empathy
To help you stay level-headed, understand that judgemental, know-it-all behavior often stems from a more profound sense of insecurity. The person likely feels they must know it all; they must judge to feel safe and better about themselves.
Looking at them this way helps you realize that they, just like all of us, are trying to survive the way we learned how.
Empathy goes a long way when dealing with judgemental people.
3. Offer alternative points of view
Judgemental, assumptive behavior can be loud and intimidating.
Try not to be intimated. Instead, take this person’s input as an opportunity to discuss, challenge, and perhaps learn and grow.
A typical reaction is entering a stand-off, where one wins and loses. This is not the wisest approach.
Trust in your point of view. Trust that it can stand alone without you having to defend it. Your confidence will help you stay calm.
Respectfully offer alternative points of view from a detached standpoint. Doing so will amplify the other person’s attachment to their beliefs and highlight their irrational behavior, ultimately helping the truth win, not just one party or the other.
4. Don’t try to change the person
You may feel that this person can benefit from changing altogether, but trying to change them, especially in one heated argument, is not going to work, nor should you try anyway.
Allow them to take their point of view and even their unreasonable or unfair behavior and live with it.
Before you pass judgment on other people’s lives for being judgemental, understand that doing so makes you a judgemental person yourself. Don’t judge them for being judgemental.
It’s easier to see the mistakes of others than our own mistakes.
5. Love yourself
The other person’s know-it-all attitude may make you doubt yourself. Self-doubt is the seed of insecurity and anxiety, so do what you can to stay grounded and self-assured.
Know-it-alls have a knack for aggressively asserting their judgments and opinion in the mind of others.
The best defense against their tactics is to remember your unconditional self-love.
Even when their judgment makes you doubt yourself, do not forget that you are a confident and worthy person, and just because you have a different opinion from them does not mean that you are wrong or stupid.
You’re not the first to feel frustrated by a judgemental know-it-all, and you won’t be the last.
Understand that much of that frustration comes from a perceived sense of injustice – there is often anger at the fact that this person feels they can get away with saying whatever they want about other people without looking at their own reflection.
The best thing you can do for yourself, your mental and emotional well-being, and those around you is not to make them stop judging but to practice letting it all go.
Be bigger than the frustration and anger that this person causes, and let them experience the consequences of their bad judgement on their own. It’s not your responsibility to teach them.